Deciding on how to educate your children may be one of the most important choices you make as a parent. Their social, emotional, and physical well-being need to be taken into account, as does the quality of their education, and their unique learning style.
While some parents seem to have known the answer to this question from day one, others are struggling with what to do as their children inch closer to school age.
Because I have always found that the best way to make a smart decision is to speak with as many people as I can, I went out in search of parent bloggers who homeschool their children, and asked them the following question:
“What is one Pro and one Con of homeschooling?”
The list you are about to read is the result of that questioning. 41 seasoned homeschoolers chimed in with their best experiences and biggest challenges, and I just love the honesty with which they responded.
The answers you read below may help you come to a decision of your own. Good luck, and happy reading!
Amy Roberts ~ Blogger ~ Raising Arrows
"I have learned infinitely more than I did during my own school years...
PRO – My favorite is how much I am learning alongside my children.
I have learned infinitely more than I did during my own school years, and I am grateful for the opportunity to share these moments of education, observation, discovery, and wonderment with my children.
CON – It’s difficult for me to think of a con when there are so many pros! If I had to give a con, it would be that it can be hard on a mom depending on her circumstances, the pressure and expectations she is burdened by, and even her own personality.
The homeschool moms who really thrive are the ones who learn to not look around them at what others are doing, and just stay steady at their own pace in their own unique style.
Gena Suarez ~ Publisher ~ The Old Schoolhouse
"The world is your schoolhouse.
PRO – The world is your schoolhouse.
Your children are not confined to the four walls of a building, but are out and about, interacting with children their own age, adults, and older people, gaining insight and experience in the real world into which they will enter as well-rounded adults.
CON – The biggest con to homeschooling is that nearly all of your non-homeschooling friends, family members and neighbors think you have all this free time all day and have nothing to do, so they frequently ask for your help with their errands and projects.
And generally, you help them because you're demonstrating a servant's heart to your children. So it's a win-win.
Jamie Gaddy ~ Manager ~ A2Z Homes Cool
"It's the perfect way to put success in the hands of your kids!
PRO – Homeschooling is flexible! Because of the nature of homeschooling, you can tailor your studies, your schedule, and your teaching style to fit your student's needs!
Your child is the focus of the homeschool process, and the benefits are limitless! In addition, there are so many options with homeschooling.
From co-ops to help with difficult subjects to internships that prepare your high schooler for their future - it's the perfect way to put success in the hands of your kids!
CON – Homeschooling requires a big investment and it's not money! As with anything that is worth doing, homeschooling requires an investment from the parents.
The responsibility of education rests on the parent, however, today there are many resources that help to lighten that load. It takes a lot of heart to work with your children every day, and it's important to take steps to ensure that you don't get burned out!!
Jen ~ Blogger ~ Practical, By Default
"You get to choose the schedule and style that is best for you...
PRO – You get to choose the schedule and style that is best for you, your child, and your family.
If you are a stay at home mom homeschooler, working homeschooler, working at home homeschooler, traveling homeschooler etc. you can find and design a schedule that works for you!
CON – You need to stick to this schedule that you just planned! Making sure it is if flexible enough for any emergencies that may spring up, and for when "life" gets in the way. Guarding your time must be a priority as a homeschool mom.
Karen Loutzenhiser ~ Writer ~ Layers Of Learning
"We get to adapt everything we do to our schedule...
PRO – One pro about homeschooling is that it is totally flexible and exactly what we want to make it. We get to adapt everything we do to our schedule, our abilities, our interests, and our passions.
We study maps and globes, but we also visit museums, national parks, landmarks, and even other countries and continents.
Sure, we get our math assignment done and learn to spell words, but we also get to go talk with engineers who are using the math and write to real authors who splash those words across their pages.
We read about science and health, but we also 3-D print, pretend play on kids teepees and build drones, volunteer at zoos, and shadow real dentists. The world is our classroom and our lessons are unforgettable.
CON – One con about homeschooling is that it fills our lives in big and sometimes exhausting ways. It's all the joys and hardships of parenting doubled up.
It takes real patience and more heart than you can imagine, You need a team of people who are cheering you on.
With believers behind you, you can do anything, but too often the skeptics stand in your way and cast their doubts.
With a positive tribe who believes in and reminds you of the joys when you're in the middle of the hardships, you can accomplish anything.
Mary Hood ~ Author ~ ARCHERS for the Lord
"Parents can individualize instruction to the child's needs...
PRO – Flexibility. Parents can individualize instruction to the child's needs, and also have the flexibility to make up their own schedules and vacation at off times of the year.
CON – Parents can unwittingly pass on their own academic weaknesses and a dislike for certain subjects if they aren't conscious of their own feelings and aren't willing or able to seek out help from others.
Meagan ~ Blogger ~ More Than a Homeschool Mom
"The ability to see your kids master something they struggled with.
PRO – One pro of homeschooling would definitely be the ability to see your kids master something they struggled with. After hours of working to learn to read and write, the first time it really clicks is enough to take your breath away and make you thankful for the journey.
CON – One con of homeschooling is the constant pressure to reach a standard you can't quantify set by people you don't know without a clear direction as to who is right or wrong.
It means constantly reminding yourself that you don't have to compare, you only have to teach your kids the way they learn best.
Latonya Moore ~ Blogger ~ Joy in the Ordinary
"I do believe homeschooling provides room for more moments of quality of time...
PRO – Homeschooling has allowed me to develop close relationships with both of my daughters. I don’t feel like I am behind when new experiences happen in their lives because we spend quite a bit of time together.
Although I don’t necessarily believe that you have to an abundance of time to have a good relationship with your child, I do believe homeschooling provides room for more moments of quality of time which leaves room for conversations and experiences that might not happen if my daughters were at school.
CON – It is true that homeschooling can be isolating especially if you don’t have a circle of friends and family who support you.
Luckily, we do have support within our regular community, but with most things in life there’s a desire to have relationships with those who have a similar life too.
In our early years of homeschooling, being the diversity was hard. I am not only speaking of diversity when it comes to race, but even when it came to being a homeschool mom who worked.
It was hard to find others who related to me. Now there are more working homeschooling moms, but the racial diversity in the homeschool community still lacks.
It’s still very normal for my daughters to be the only Black students in a class even though we live in a more diverse community when it comes to homeschooling.
Patrice Fagnant-MacArthur ~ Editor ~ Today's Catholic Homeschooling
"Children have the opportunity to learn at their own pace.
PRO – It's hard to just list one pro for homeschooling, but I'd say its greatest benefit is the gift of time. Children have the opportunity to learn at their own pace.
In addition, because homeschooling does not take as many hours as traditional school, they have the time to pursue their own interests on a deeper level.
CON – One of the cons is that it can be hard for homeschooling parents to spend so much time with their children without the benefit of adult interaction.
It is so important to have a network of other homeschoolers so that you can have friends to talk with who understand your lifestyle.
Shelly Buck ~ Vlogger ~ Simply Shelly
"The biggest Pro for me is that I have been able to spend all this time with my kids.
PRO – After 10 years of homeschooling, I think my husband and I would agree that homeschooling is one of the best decisions we have made.
The biggest Pro for me is that I have been able to spend all this time with my kids. I've had the privilege to build a closer relationship with them because of the time homeschooling has afforded me.
I've been able to instill our beliefs and values into them, instead of someone else.
CON – My con would also be time spent with my kids! when you homeschool, you spend all of your time with your kids and this can become exhausting when a tired mom doesn't get a break.
My sister once told me you have to remember your "why", which is the reason you began homeschooling in the first place, and always go back and remind yourself of that reason.
I will never regret the tiring moments because of the amazing bond it has created in my family.
Dianna Kennedy ~ Blogger ~ The Kennedy Adventures
"Having a support team (my husband and close friends) helps me tremendously.
PRO – I can meet my children where they are, and work with them to progress at their pace, instead of an arbitrary timeline.
I have sons with learning issues (dyslexia, dysgraphia and auditory processing disorder), and having them at home with me has allowed them to soar.
CON – As a homeschooling mother, I feel like I'm being judged by the outside world, to live up to others' expectations for education.
It's hard for me to close my eyes to the nay-sayers and press on. Having a support team (my husband and close friends) helps me tremendously.
Lee Binz ~ Homeschool Consultant~ The Home Scholar
"Parents can create a cozy corner to encourage reading real literature.
PRO – The biggest pro of homeschooling is the love of learning.
Homeschooling provides the best possible learning environment to encourage the love of learning.
Homeschooling is education safe and secure, allowing children to learn more in a relaxed environment. Parents can create a cozy corner to encourage reading real literature.
Behind a couch, laying on the dog, or cuddling up inside a teepee can be a great way to encourage the true love of reading. Supply the throw pillows or blankets, fill a shelf with age-appropriate books, and presto!
You have created a warm and welcoming environment to promote the love of reading, learning and homeschooling.
CON – The biggest cons of homeschooling is the quantity of books. Homeschool parents constantly battle an overwhelming, always growing collection of books.
A frequent consumer of shelving units, homeschool parents are known to have rooms where all walls are bookshelves, with books littering the floor and filling boxes laying everywhere.
It's not just books they own, either. Homeschoolers are often regulars at the public library, filling boxes of books weekly.
Amy Milcic ~ Blogger ~ Rock Your Homeschool
"A good planner can be a homeschool mom's best friend.
PRO – Homeschooling provides you with the opportunity to help your kids enjoy learning.
You can jump down rabbit holes, explore interests, and add fun to your day. Also, you have the gift of time. You get to know your kids for who they are and select resources that best fit their needs.
CON – It can feel like you never have enough hours in your day to do all the things you need and want to do. There are so many wonderful things to learn about and explore!
Plus, dishes, changing the kids curtains, and dust to distract. To overcome that overwhelm, it's essential to focus on your why and pair those goals with realistic expectations. Also, a good planner can be a homeschool mom's best friend.
Ticia ~ Former Teacher ~ Adventures in Mommydom
"If Mom is lackadaisical, her children will suffer and their education will show it.
PRO – You can adapt to your child's interests, their strengths, and their weaknesses. This becomes especially important as your kids age.
This year each of my children have an independent project geared for their current career plan. I was able to change the math curriculum we were using for my daughter because she wasn't learning with our current curriculum.
CON – Homeschooling is made or broken by Mom's involvement. If the Mom (or primary homeschooling parent) is on top of it and involved homeschooling will surpass all other educational systems because of her passion.
If Mom is lackadaisical, her children will suffer and their education will show it. That can be very stressful for the homeschooling parent.
Michelle Cannon~ Single Mom ~ The Heart of Michelle
""We are free to homeschool in the style or method that works for our family.
PRO – Freedom. We are free to homeschool in the style or method that works for our family. Most importantly, I can adapt what we're doing to my children's individual special needs.
CON – The only negative things I can think of are not directly caused by homeschooling, but occur in homeschools all the time. Those negatives are things such as comparison, putting pressure on ourselves to fit in imaginary boxes we think everyone else is in.
Renee Brown ~ Homeschool Mom ~ Renee at Green Peace
"For my family homeschooling is absolutely the right choice for our only child.
PRO – As a mom of an only child I get questioned quite a bit about whether homeschooling is the right choice for a single child. For my family homeschooling is absolutely the right choice for our only child.
The biggest pro of homeschooling an only child is that I can fully allow him to grow and explore his own interests and develop his own passions. It’s easier for a single child family to foster individual learning because the educational focus is placed on only one child.
CON – The biggest con, however, of homeschooling an only child is that mom becomes his partner in all areas of learning where a child needs to work with someone else.
Therefore, I become his lab partner, his exercise partner, and have to try to converse with him for his foreign language study. Therefore, there is often a huge time constraint and learning curve to act as an educational partner for my only child.
Tracy Zdelar ~ Writer ~ Hall Of Fame Moms
"We have the freedom to teach our children according to our values...
PRO – Perhaps the biggest advantage to homeschooling is FREEDOM. We have the freedom to teach our children according to our values, limit the bad influence of unsavory socialization and travel when it suits us, anytime of the year.
CON – The one con to homeschooling would be that it can be hard for the stay at home, homeschooling mom to find time to herself.
Jaimi Erickson ~ Stay at Home Mom ~ The SAHM Survival Guide
"I chose to homeschool for the purpose of having more quality time with my children...
PRO – I chose to homeschool for the purpose of having more quality time with my children and making sure that they were learning to live by our values.
That is a huge benefit in my opinion of being not only a guide to your children as a parent, but an instructor as they are working on their academics.
CON – A con that is a byproduct of homeschool is I do not get much time to myself. I know this is just a season of life and one day my children will be grown and out on their own, so I am eager to soak up the time we do have together, but it is part of homeschooling.
Kimberly Storms ~ Military Wife ~ A Little Crunchy
"One thing was solid, we would be learning and exploring together.
PRO – It is truly hard to pick just one pro to share, I have a list of reasons why we homeschool that is nearly 500 reasons long now. If I had to pick just one I think it would be that I believe homeschooling builds a strong family.
You see we are a military family and have moved over a dozen times in the last 20 years. So much changes in our lives, Daddy deployed, we move to a new state, so much change.
One thing was solid, we would be learning and exploring together. The kids could count on us homeschooling where ever we happen to be. The kids have learned they can count on each other as well. We are just such a solid unit together.
CON – With all the moves and homeschooling some of the kids are reluctant to make new friendships. Homeschooling them doesn't really force the matter I think as much as public school does as the kids always know they have their siblings.
Thankfully only one is actually really shy and she does wonderfully if she has one of her siblings with her to meet new people. For sure 4/5 kids are very social and time may help the 5th bloom!